A mother might show her anger in different ways, but the actual reason for her anger might be something else. Something that others cannot imagine, something that others will never know.
She fights with herself every single day, searching for her own identity, fighting to create her own identity. Fighting because she is restricted from a certain things, fighting because she is dominated in many ways. Not everyone voices out, not everyone is heard.
She doesn’t succeed many a times because of the unwillingness of her family and then lives with a guilt of not being able to do things for her kids her own way. She has given birth to them but still cannot fulfil her desires of bringing them up in her own way.
She fights with the interference of her surroundings, she is angry because she cannot do what she wants, she cannot go where she wants to go, she cannot express what she wants to do, she is not heard. She is struggling, she is under pressure because everyone wants her to be perfect, she is in charge of all the affairs of the family, but still is dominated and then questioned because she misses out on certain things. She runs finishing one chore to another, she is tired her body is sour but still she has to hold up a smiling face.
She then gets frustrated, irritated. Then the guilt hits her that she is shouting at her kids, she is not cooking fancy dinner for the family, this again increases her temper. She is held up all day, her kids need her, they miss her and show all the tantrums to her but right then there is someone behind ready to judge that her kids cry only in front of her. Oh while all this is going on, there is PMS coming through and she is fighting with her own Hormones while they are also trying to dominate her. Well when will the society understand that a women does her best as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter and as a daughter in law. If there are ups and downs anywhere why not just accept it and go on than commenting, judging and making her feel guilty to the extent of affecting her self esteem and confidence.
When will she be heard? When will her surrounding be supportive?
She can just keep hoping for that, but in the mean time she starts working on herself, on her mental health. Tries ways to fill her own cup. Tries to keep her mind calm. We as mothers let’s be there for each other, let’s talk it out, vent out. Find a group who is all ears for you. Meditate. Take out time for yourself. You You and only you are responsible for your mental health. Don’t ever judge a mother, spread awareness, talk out how you people? If people tell you, what’s the big deal that your doing, it’s a women’s job, well such people are the ones you need to stay away from.
Every Mom does her best and you are the best 💝
Early Momage 